I Don’t by Clementine Ford

Published: 31 October 2023 (print)/7 November 2023 (audio) Goodreads badge
Publisher:
Allen and Unwin/W. F. Howes Ltd.
Pages: 370/9 hrs and 5 mins
Narrator: Clementine Ford
Format: Audiobook
Genre: Non Fiction
★   ★   ★   ★   ★ – 5 Stars

Incendiary feminist and bestselling author Clementine Ford presents the inarguable case against marriage for the modern woman. Provocative, controversial and above all, compellingly and persuasively argued.

“I want this book to end marriages. But more importantly, I want it to prevent marriages. Women are allowed to aspire to more than what we’ve been told we should want in order to be happy. Let yourself have a bigger dream than becoming the supporting role in someone else’s story.

Why, when there is so much evidence of the detrimental, suffocating impact marriage has on women’s lives, does the myth of marital bliss still prevail? If the feminist project has been so successful, why do so many women still believe that our value is intrinsically tied to being chosen by a man?”

In her most incendiary and controversial book to date, Clementine Ford exposes the lies used to sell marriage to women to keep them in service to men and male power. From the roots of marriage as a form of property transaction to the wedding industrial complex, Clementine Ford explains how capitalist patriarchal structures need women to believe in marriage in order to maintain control over women’s agency, ambitions and freedom.

I Don’t presents an inarguable case against marriage for modern women. With the incisive attention to detail and razor-sharp wit that characterises her work, Ford dissects the patriarchal history of marriage; the insidious, centuries-long marketing campaign pop culture has conducted in marriage’s favour; the illusion of feminist ‘choice’ in regard to taking men’s names; and the physical and social cost that comes with motherhood. 

But most importantly, Clementine Ford shows us what a different kind of world could look like for women if we were allowed to be truly free. 

I wasn’t sure I’d be interested in this book despite my love of Ford’s other books, but I adored it. The history of marriage and the role it’s played in society, women’s lives, and how it has changed over the years was fascinating. I loved the quotes that could have been from this decade but were from centuries ago. Women have always had strong opinions and thoughts about their lives and marriage and I loved being able to see that people have always been people.

I have seen the hate Ford gets from certain people both in the public eye and not, and while this blurb makes it sound like it’s a call for every woman to suddenly up and leave their partner in the middle of the night it isn’t that at all.

What Ford’s done is written a fantastic book looking at the history of marriage and how it has been used over the centuries to claim women as property, to control and subdue them, and, despite all the years of growth and change, there are still a lot of negative things that come from marriage even in the twenty first century.

The binding ties of marriage are different to the concept of being in a relationship and Ford has nothing against being with someone, but a lot of her book goes through the history of marriage, its evolution, and how it is still rooted in those misogynistic ways of the early incarnations. Not to mention how it wasn’t that long ago women still didn’t have full financial autonomy, security over their children, or safety in being able to leave abuse.

Even without the captivating chapters about power dynamics, household labour imbalance, and the societal expectations engrained in us from a young age, the insight into the wedding industry is fascinating. Ford delves deep at how they prey on people whose dream day can be exploited with price hikes, unnecessary frivolity, and how so often a huge party is just as acceptable compared to the pomp and circumstance of dresses, flowers, and sermons about obeying.

There isn’t a sole focus on the female perspective of marriage, and the analysis of the marriage equality debate was considerate and well judged. This is as much a look at the system and history of marriage as it is a call for readers to think critically about their choices and why they want to do this. If you go into marriage with your eyes open you can go in knowing what to expect. But Ford asks readers to decide if it’s something they actually want to do, or if it is something that think they have to do, are expected to do, will fill incomplete and unfilled if they don’t do, or if they will be thought of as lesser if they don’t. These issues are what she explores beautifully and with statistics behind her and a wealth of data I loved how accessible and eye opening this book made me, especially when I already thought I knew so much.

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Not Here to Make Friends (#3) by Jodi McAllister

Published: 3 January 2024 (print)/2 January 2024 (audio) Goodreads badge
Publisher:
Atria Books/Simon & Schuster Australia
Pages: 400/9 hrs and 35 mins
Narrator: Matty Morris, Aileen Huynh
Format: Audiobook
Genre: Romance
★   ★   ★   ★ – 4 Stars

Murray O’Connell is standing on the greatest precipice of his career. As showrunner of the reality dating show Marry Me, Juliet, Murray is determined to make this season a success.

Nothing and nobody will stand in his way.

Except perhaps Lily Fireball, the network’s choice for this season’s villain. Lily has classic reality TV appeal: She’s feisty, dramatic, and never backs down from a fight. She also happens to be Murray’s estranged best friend and former co-showrunner.

What was once a perfectly planned season turns to chaos as the two battle for control. Working in reality television, they’re used to drama, secrets, and romance. But what happens when suddenly they’re at the center of the storyline?

I love this series. This is the third version of this story but while there is a whole other side being explored, there’s obvious overlaps and seeing that cross over with what I’ve read in books one and two are great nods to the other points of view while also being a fresh new story on its own. Lily has intrigued me from the very beginning. I have been dying through two books to know Lily’s story. Now I finally have it.

It is amazing to see how easily people can be produced. It’s come up before, not in the reality TV space, but how people can be manipulated or at least be used to gain information or make people reveal more than they normally would. We all know about the editing to get the best TV, it’s something we’ve seen it in the past two books and now we finally have the answers.

Murray has suffered a lot as a result of this and I love how his rushed, tired, and frantic existence is captured in his narration. You can see how run off his feet he is, something that we’d seen briefly in the other books but it’s fun to see the poor man suffer at the whims of these characters who aren’t doing the story they originally planned on.

It isn’t all heart-warming and sunshine, nor a revisit to scenes and plots we’ve read before. Seeing behind the scenes of reality TV has never been my cup of tea. I don’t actually like seeing how manipulative producers and editing can be. Now McAlister has given us the perspective of those behind the scenes it’s hard to see the enjoyment in these shows. Where previous books showed how the characters could defy the chosen narrative and make their own paths, it’s hard seeing how those less fortunate can’t escape being manipulated by what makes “good TV”.

Having said that, it’s still great. It’s interesting because a few chapters in you know where it’s going, you’ve also read the other books so one side you’ve seen already. Yet McAlister has still makes these characters intriguing enough, their dynamic engaging enough, that you need to see how they both react to what happens in this story.

Despite being on the dodgy side of ethics, Murray and Lily do know they aren’t the best people. Coercing people into their narratives and staging things to get the outcomes they want are things they know aren’t good, but they know they are good at them as well.

The replay of scenes we’ve read before never feel repetitive and it’s a good reminder of what’s happened and the different points of view and how those events came to be. Reading the three books gives a perfect view of every angle of the story. The final story being the behind the scenes manipulations, puppetry, and wrap up of the mysteries of the previous books is perfect.

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Wundersmith (#2) by Jessica Townsend

Published: 30 October 2018 (print)/26 November 2018 (audio) Goodreads badge
Publisher:
Lothian Children’s Books/Hachette Australia
Pages: 467/11 hrs and 50 mins
Narrator: Gemma Whelan
Format: Audiobook
Genre: Junior Fiction Fantasy
★   ★   ★   ★   ★ – 5 Stars

Wunder is gathering in Nevermoor …

Morrigan Crow may have defeated her deadly curse, passed the dangerous trials and joined the mystical Wundrous Society, but her journey into Nevermoor and all its secrets has only just begun. And she is fast learning that not all magic is used for good.

Morrigan Crow has been invited to join the prestigious Wundrous Society, a place that promised her friendship, protection and belonging for life. She’s hoping for an education full of wunder, imagination and discovery – but all the Society want to teach her is how evil Wundersmiths are. And someone is blackmailing Morrigan’s unit, turning her last few loyal friends against her. Has Morrigan escaped from being the cursed child of Wintersea only to become the most hated figure in Nevermoor?

Worst of all, people have started to go missing. The fantastical city of Nevermoor, once a place of magic and safety, is now riddled with fear and suspicion…

I loved Nevermoor and Wundersmith exceeds it by being even more amazing. I loved seeing Morrigan’s growth as a person, in her abilities and this new world she has become a part of. The same fun and flighty characters are there but in new ways as more of the world and school is explored. Not to mention as new dangers arise.

There is a darker theme running under the story, but with this strange world Morrigan’s in there was always the capacity for darkness given we start off the series with her having a curse. It’s a dangerous world and seeing Morrigan try to understand it and navigate it is wonderful.

Jupiter is always a brilliant character, his erratic nature is balanced by his desire to protect Morrigan, but per usual he always knows more than he lets on and isn’t as flighty as he appears. There’s new and returning characters to fall in love with and the different knacks of the other people in Morrigan’s unit are creative and it shows that everyone’s abilities are diverse but can always have a use.

The lead up to the ending was absolutely divine. It brings together so much and plays out so brilliantly it was hard not to admire this book for those moments alone. I am so keen to see where Townsend is taking Morrigan’s story because I’m certainly hooked so far.

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The View from the Balcony by Janette Paul

Published: 25 March 2025 (print)/1 April 2025 (audio) Goodreads badge
Publisher:
Pan Macmillan Australia/Bolinda Publishing
Pages: 400/11 hrs and 9 mins
Narrator: Lucy Moir
Format: Audiobook
Genre: Fiction
★   ★   ★   ★ – 4 Stars

Three women and the healing power of friendship.

Andie has no memory of the man who pushed her out of the way of a speeding car. A week before Coral’s biggest career highlight, her mum has a fall. And the last thing Mara wants is to be assigned to work at the hospital bedside of the much-despised senior partner of her law firm.

Andie, Coral and Mara become the daily visitors to the three patients at the end of East Wing of Hepburn House Rehabilitation Hospital. The balcony that connects the three rooms provides an oasis, a healing place, but more than that, too: a place where their lives will interconnect and never be quite the same again…

A heartwarming and evocative novel of love, friendship and family, where hope overcomes all – even terrible hospital coffee.

This is a wonderful story about women and their lives, it’s also about friendship and support and all the different types of experiences people can have. It’s about the multifaceted aspects of family, friendship, work, and romance, and how responsibility is often a burden when carried alone.

I enjoyed the emotional journey the women went on and even though there were disasters and chaos at times, in all of their lives, I enjoyed that they were allowed a real experience, full of heart. No dramas. It isn’t bland, simple, or emotionally uninteresting either, it was a beautifully real story about three people in different stages of their lives and the struggles and joys they experience.

All three women have stress in their lives and things that are causing chaos for them. Mara deals with the stress of family obligations and lack or support, Coral is dealing with the pressures of family and her obligations, while Andi is dealing with the trauma of her accident and healing.

I don’t know whether I need to worry that someone my age and in my situation resonated with Coral so much. I felt sympathy and had a connection with her and her circumstances as she was pulled in every direction and made to feel bad for wanting a break or time to herself. It might be Paul’s great writing though, you really get into the mindsets of these characters. You understand their stresses, their fears, and with remarkable ease you understand who they are and where they’re coming from.

Paul’s approach of writing about the unseen and oft forgotten people was a great decision. When someone is recovering the temptation is to focus on their story, who they are meeting in the hospital, what their recovery journey is like. To have this flipped and we’re focused now on those in a supportive role it reminds you how even popping in for a visit each day can be draining and a demanding practice.

The setting of a care hospital is a great place to interact because with a mix of patients, staff, plus the fly in fly out nature of family and visitors it makes for a great place to overlap, interact, and gauge these characters and their lives.

I loved all the characters, even the difficult and harsh ones, because you know there’s reasons why, there’s life history, there’s emotional issues or illness that makes them hard to deal with. But their complexity makes them real, turns them into people you know, you’ve met, and the ability Paul has to layer so much depth into the characters without being heavy handed is amazing.

I actually enjoyed the three narrators didn’t find one another until the end of the book. It wasn’t like they were the only three characters either, each one has a little group around them so they are never alone, but they still never cross paths. It works too because it is completely believable and understandable. In a place like the rehab centre people pop in and out all the time, and often you’re so wrapped up in who you’re there to visit you only notice people in passing as you bustle onto your next duty of the day. This is contrasted by the evidence that those in recovery did find one another and formed relationships, which we only catches glimpses of through our main characters. In another book these characters would be the main focus and Coral and co would be the side characters we never get a chance to see deeply.

There’s complications of course. There’s decisions that need making, there’s circumstances that work in a ward but not in the outside world. There’s risks to take and opportunities to weigh up which was as impactful and consequential as any major disaster. I’m glad there wasn’t a huge Event the characters had to deal with. The three main characters had their own events to deal with and overcome and I loved how that was perfect for this type of story.

Paul brings great closure with the ending, Val and Coral finally get to have their moment, the realisation of clarity or whether the clarity was new or just a fluke is irrelevant as it helped heal them both. I was hoping Mara and the physio Riley were going to hook up, they are a good match and the few interactions they had felt like they really clicked. There’s career prospects and personal growth, and new opportunities to leave readers feeling hopeful.

I will admit I am a little annoyed at the ending, but only because I was rooting for Coral so much. She deserved great things and regardless of her acceptance I was annoyed her obligations – despite her decision that they weren’t – stopped her doing something she had earned, worked for, and should be able to celebrate. But my disappointment was made up in the comradery these women showed, the ride or die for someone they barely know and are spurred into by the people around them.

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Dear Sweet Pea by Julie Murphy

Published: 1 October 2019 (print)/1 October 2019 (audio) Goodreads badge
Publisher:
Balzer + Bray/Harper Collins
Pages: 273/6 hours, 20 minutes
Narrator: Phoebe Strole
Format: Audiobook
Genre: Contemporary Junior Fiction
★   ★   ★ – 3 Stars

Patricia “Sweet Pea” DiMarco wasn’t sure what to expect when her parents announced they were getting a divorce. She never could have imagined that they would have the “brilliant” idea of living in nearly identical houses on the same street. In the one house between them lives their eccentric neighbour Miss Flora Mae, the famed local advice columnist behind “Miss Flora Mae I?”

Dividing her time between two homes is not easy. And it doesn’t help that at school, Sweet Pea is now sitting right next to her ex-best friend, Kiera, a daily reminder of the friendship that once was. Things might be unbearable if Sweet Pea didn’t have Oscar–her new best friend–and her fifteen-pound cat, Cheese.

Then one day Flora leaves for a trip and asks Sweet Pea to forward her the letters for the column. And Sweet Pea happens to recognize the handwriting on one of the envelopes.

What she decides to do with that letter sets off a chain of events that will forever change the lives of Sweet Pea DiMarco, her family, and many of the readers of “Miss Flora Mae I?”

This book was enjoyable, had a few issues, but for a book kids will read it was a nice story. There was a lot of diversity and insights into being a kid, body issues and friend dramas, as well as big family changes.

Being in year seven I think Sweet Pea is around 13, which explains the lack of critical thinking and the impulsive actions. But while she is sensible in some areas, and has a well-rounded view on others, she is still quite selfish and judgemental of those around her. Having a character like this is good because why should a kid be perfect when they are still growing, and hopefully this story is the start of her growth. She has a lot of important things happening in her life and her good intentions don’t always work out.

One things I thought was curious was there are no consequences for Sweet Pea hiding her father’s important mail or deleting phone messages. I felt that was the wrong message to send that even if Sweet Pea felt bad, no adult found out what she did and even when it was clear there would have been major consequences nothing seemed to come of it.

Opening all the mail was magically forgotten about too, as was reading everyone’s private letters to Flora Mae and then resealing them (perfectly somehow) and sending them on. Even though there are consequences for the ones she does deal with, it was a weird thing to leave unmentioned.

The way characters are described aren’t blended well, there is a lot of “there is a guy behind the counter, he looks like this and is wearing this” but imagine this for every person Sweet Pea sees. It’s takes you from the story a little, especially in audio form when you stop to describe someone then the story continues. It shows off good representation and shows diversity, even if it’s a one off background character, but the writing needed to make it more streamlined.

Another unrealistic thing is I cannot imagine her school calling her Sweet Pea, even if it has Patricia on her forms. What kind of awkward thirteen year old wants everyone calling her Sweet Pea, I feel that is prime humiliation, even in a small town and a small school. She can’t be awkward and anxious while also being on having everyone call her a personal nickname.

Strole does a good job as narrator, I liked her voice for Sweet Pea and aside from the clunky descriptions I fell into the story easily.

Overall I liked the story, even with the flaws. Murphy writes these characters who are imperfect and finding their way in the world. It’s a bold adventure and a lot of change for Sweet Pea but one I think would resonate with a lot of kids around the same age.

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